Happy Holiday Gifting

Still hammering away at your Christmas list  for those hard-to-buy-for family members?

Oldest Daughters: What to know if you are one or have ever been bossed around by one is a book of stories,  insights, and suggestions for building loving family relationships.  For  everyone in the family — oldests, siblings, and spouses!

Available as a print or ebook at amazon.com and on request from Barnes & Noble stores.

Merry Christmas to all— and to all, happy gifting!

All the World’s a Stage


The two actors stood stage left, on an otherwise empty stage.

One asked the other,  “What do you get when you put a spider together with an ear of corn? (*Find out at end of blog)

The answer drew hoots and cheers from the audience watching a sold-out performance of How to eat like a child—and other lessons in how not to be a grown up (Based on a book by Delia Ephron).

But there was a more intriguing question behind and underlying the entertainment. What do you get when you put young people with special needs together with middle and high school students who are passionate about theatre?

The answer is CenterStage’s Tapestry Theatre Company (CSTC),  in Louisville, Colorado.

CSTC is the brainchild of Elizabeth Goodrich, a special ed teacher and member of the Board of Directors of CenterStage, and Lynne Niston, a special needs paraprofessional. Each has a long standing interest in theater as part of the arts and both were initially members of other theatre groups.  Through their professional and personal interests, they became aware of groups around the world that cast individuals with special needs in theatre productions.   Then six years ago Ms. Goodrich and Ms. Niston put their heads, hearts and talents together and started Tapestry.

A Different Kind of Theatre Company

CenterStage’s Tapestry Theatre casts actors with special needs, ages 11  and up in lead roles.  Peer mentor actors are partnered with them as understudies and support. They work together during rehearsals and appear together on stage during performances.

I have been attending their amazing, talented, heart-opening productions for the past four years. In the interests of full disclosure, one of my grandsons is a Tapestry peer mentor.  That’s how I learned about this unusual company.

As their website (centerstagetheatrecompany.org) explains: “Tapestry Theatre provides actors with an opportunity to participate in Theatre that is safe,  welcoming and adaptive and inclusive.  This creates a community that encourages youth to experience diversity and forge long-lasting friendships, culminating in high quality musical productions.”

Tapestry is not affiliated with any other theatre groups.  As part of CenterStage, it receives support from various community organizations,  including the Association for Community Living, which is part of The ARC; The National Endowment for the Arts; the Boulder County Arts Alliance; and the City of Louisville.

Originally the intent of the two directors was to provide involvement to  individuals with special needs through the age of 21—the age when school services end.  However, they have now started a young adult program and have also expanded their performances to include multi-generational and multi-ability casts.

Ms. Goodrich is passionate about the results she sees.  “Our mentors bring an openness to relationships with people of all abilities and an understanding that persons with special needs have valuable gifts or talents  that are most often overlooked.


“Mentors not just there to share their own talents, they are there to receive those gifts. Understanding this can lead to a breakthrough in changing society.  It is what is so magical about what we are doing.”

Shakespeare Got It

In penning his play, “As You Like it,” Shakespeare included this line: “ All the world’s a stage and all the men and women merely players.”  In directing Tapestry, Ms. Goodrich knows how she would like it.  “It is my hope that beyond entertaining our audience, our performances will open doors past theatre into everyday life for people of all abilities.”

I applaud that thought and all that Tapestry is accomplishing.

*Answer to the riddle:  A cobweb.

Oldest Daughters: what to know if you are one or have ever been bossed around by one (Rudzik Press, 2017) is available at Amazon.com, Kindle.com and select book stores.  For more information, go to http://oldestdaughter.com


Moving On

As I recently explained in a last post to another blog, it’s taken me an unplanned year to realize it’s time to move on.  I hadn’t posted anything on that blog for several months.

The truth is, I haven’t had the stomach to join the talking heads—especially as a blogger simply adding her two cents worth.  (Wise decision — the value of the penny is now so low, they’re talking about doing away with it.)

The message for me?  Time for “change” of a different kind. Maybe even to turn things upside down occasionally.

So I’ve moved to the current address, oldestdaughter.com  It’s a space with a new view—on what makes our lives as oldest daughters worth living, enjoying and sharing.

Please come and bring your friends —there’s lots of room for new viewpoints.

Hello world!

Friendship is born at the moment when one (woman) says to another, What? You too?  I thought that no one but myself …—  a slightly modified observation from C.S. Lewis’ book, The Four Loves

Over breakfast at a favorite neighborhood deli some years ago a long-time friend and I made a surprising discovery about each other.  We are both the oldest child in our families.  Which means we are also each the oldest daughter in our families.  We began to talk about why that was important. For the next two hours that day, stories about our first-child/oldest-daughter experiences poured out and spilled over like coffee from the pot of our distracted waitress.  We commiserated so totally with each other that by late morning when we left, we laughingly considered forming an ODA — an Oldest Daughters Anonymous group.   That never happened.

What did happen is that I began researching the topic of oldest daughters and spent the next ten years writing a book about us.  I heard from several hundred survey participants and conducted personal interviews with more than one hundred first-born females and family members.   And now I want to continue the conversation through this website and blog.

Patricia Schudy