Very. Almost.

 

The response to her husband surprised me.   He had called from the downstairs great room where we were sitting to his wife who was upstairs in their bedroom.

“We’re supposed to be there in 15 minutes.  Think we’ll make it?”“I’m very almost ready,” she called back.

He chuckled. So did I.

It was an answer I immediately committed to memory. I loved the wording.   Much better than what’s been said so often that no spouse believes it —  “Just a few minutes more.” A vast improvement over the honest, but negative,  “Not quite.”

Filled with hope. 

I have begun to use this combination of of words in a variety of situations. Sometimes to describe actual progress.  Other times to describe feelings.

I’m very almost finished writing my book.
I’m very almost finished with Christmas shopping.

Or I’m very almost in love with you.”  (That might not have been what my future husband wanted to hear when our dating became serious.)

Now I’m wanting to say, I’m very almost done with all the political talk on television, requests to write to my congressman, or (most often) send a contribution.  Very almost.

I believe it’s still important to stay tuned in, to become/remain informed.But am I willing to do more than that?

copyright 2012 Pat Schudy

 

 

To be out front or take a stand with others? To weather a storm of possible personal reactions?

Those who study such things say that oldest daughters are leaders, influencers.  In our families and often beyond.

I’m very almost ready to decide what, if anything, the oldest-daughter side of me will do.

Author: Patricia Schudy

Patricia Schudy is the author of the non-fiction book, "Oldest Daughters: What to know if you are one or have ever been bossed around by one," published in 2017. She is a former nationally syndicated, youth-advice columnist (Universal Press Syndicate/Andrews McMeel) and a free-lance writer of more than 200 bylined features. Her articles have appeared in regional and national publications including Better Homes and Gardens /Meredith Publications, the Kansas City STAR Magazine and the National Catholic Reporter. She is a member of the Alliance of Independent Authors (ALLi), Colorado Independent Publishers Association (CIPA), and the Northern Colorado Writers Association. The oldest child in her family-of-origin’s five siblings, she learned through research that most of the studies about first-born children had focused on males. But what about oldest females? That question led to the writing and publication of Oldest Daughters: What to know if you are one or have ever been bossed around by one. The author is the mother of five adult children, the grandmother of eight, and currently blogs at www.oldestdaughter.com. “Relationships are integral to who I am and what I choose to write about.”

2 thoughts on “Very. Almost.”

  1. Thanks to friends who are more than almost ready, I have become an activist who is committed to at least one action each day. We check in with one another often enough so our good intentions don’t wane. One day I might send emails to my legislators, another I may spend time in prayer for our government or send fellow activists encouragement . I take time to read so I know what I need to attend to. And, I am almost ready to weather the storms of personal unfavorable reactions from those I love who disagree with many of my concerns. I hate getting wet but sometimes a dunking is a small price to pay for a commitment to action.

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