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Oldest Daughters–What to know if you are one or have ever been bossed around by one

reveals the impact of the first-born daughter’s role on her adult life, her siblings and family relationships.

Author Patricia Schudy shares stories from her in-depth interviews with more than 100 first-born daughters, siblings and spouses.  They provide insights into the pride and pain, resentments and hopes of oldest daughters and those who share their lives.

When asked why they had agreed to be interviewed, a common response was,  “I want to know I’m not the only one out there feeling this way.”   Another respondent (a sibling) put it this way, “I can’t believe I’m the only one wanting to know how to survive an oldest daughter!

The author includes her own experiences and personal commentaries, along with results of an online survey of several hundred random family members from diverse ethnicities about their experiences and feelings.

At the end of each of the ten easy-to-read chapters, a contributing clinical psychologist adds Insights and self-help Reflections for personal transformation and restoring or improving sibling and family relationships.

Birth order is a fact; It does not have to be a fate.  Oldest Daughters —What to Know… affirms that changes are possible and can be rewarding.

(Copyright © 2017 by Patricia Schudy)

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